Touching, but naive and unrealistic

Mr. Adrian Tan (author of The Teenage Textbook..he wrote it while he was reading Law at NUS..never read it though) gave a talk on the subject of love at NTU recently, and here are some excerpts from his speech: It is far easier to find a reason not to love someone, than otherwise. Rejection requires only one reason. Love requires complete acceptance. It is hard work. You will find that it is no great tragedy if your love is not reciprocated. You are not doing it to be loved back. Its value is to inspire you. Finally, you will find that there is no half-measure when it comes to loving someone. You either don’t, or you do with every cell in your body, completely and utterly, without reservation or apology. It consumes you, and you are reborn, all the better for it. I’m sorry..it all sounds very nice, but it’s utter bullshit. Who can tolerate months and months of constant giving and no receiving? What will happen when you put your entire soul into ‘the one’, only to have your heart shattered into a million pieces? The noble lover will be the one left to cry at the end of the relationship, even though she/he truly ‘loved’. Humans are all so selfish..it’s better to be smart sometimes…some people are just not worth giving up everything for. It’s especially true in a society like Singapore/New York..or any other busy city..everyone is all ‘ME ME ME ME ME IT’S ALL ABOUT ME’. It is extremely sad, but that’s how life works. Your partner might be ‘the one’ for you, but you might not necessarily be ‘the one’ to him. You might have all the time in the world for him, you might put down everything you have on hand just to be there for him, but there is absolutely no guarantee he will do the same for you. 99% of the time you’ll just end up disappointing yourself when you expect too much (even though deep down, you know there’s nothing to expect). ………………..